| When your marriage has come to the stage | | | | come to an agreement on what they each can |
| where a breakup seems unavoidable, it is very | | | | do toward resolution of the problems, and putting |
| likely that there are multiple problems in your | | | | the marriage back on track once more. |
| relationship. We sometimes hear about a marriage | | | | Maybe he has a very annoying (to her) habit of |
| breaking up as a result of infidelity by of one of | | | | watching sports on TV, all day on Sunday. She is |
| the partners. We may hear that the union has | | | | left wondering why they never take the kids and |
| come apart as a result of personality problems or | | | | dog out in the country for the day, like they once |
| maybe due to financial problems or for a | | | | used to. Perhaps she spends evenings talking to |
| multitude of other reasons. It is very rarely true | | | | her girl friends on the phone. He wonders why |
| that the breakup is due to only a single problem | | | | she never sits down for a relaxing evening with |
| however. If this were the case it could, in many | | | | him to talk about the things that are important in |
| cases, be resolved quite easily. The fact is that | | | | their lives, like they used to. A mutual |
| there are usually multiple problems which come | | | | understanding of how this sort of thing is breaking |
| together to result in near irreparable damage to | | | | them apart will go a long way toward a solution |
| the relationship. | | | | of this and other problems. Marriages are known |
| Infidelity is the most prominent problem in causing | | | | to come apart because one partner spends all |
| marriage breakups. However is it simply the result | | | | their time living their virtual life on the internet. So |
| of one partner finding a romantic relationship | | | | much so that their real life doesn,t seem |
| outside the marriage? Or could it be caused by | | | | important anymore. |
| pressure from within the marriage, which has | | | | Problems like these need to be be resolved by |
| resulted in the pot boiling over, figuratively | | | | both partners in the marriage recognising that |
| speaking, and for either one or sometimes both | | | | they have a big problem. They then need to take |
| partners, seeking comfort elsewhere. There may | | | | whatever steps are necessary to correct it. Both |
| have been financial problems, also added to by | | | | partners in the relationship must recognise that |
| personal problems, or another factor which has | | | | they are two wonderful people who once had an |
| caused a deep wedge to be driven into the union. | | | | exceptionally good marriage. Now as a result of |
| This has caused both partners to reach for | | | | pressure from various sources they have been |
| greener pastures they see somewhere else. | | | | wedged far apart. They did not intend this to |
| Is there any way in which this marriage can be | | | | happen, but it has, and they need to correct it. |
| saved? The very first thing that has to be done | | | | There is no doubt that they can get back |
| is to get both partners together to have a frank | | | | together. If they are willing to take part in frank |
| discussion of the problems that exist in their | | | | discussion, with the necessary willingness, by both |
| marriage. The causes of these problems and | | | | partners, to do whatever is necessary to get |
| ways in which they might be resolved need to be | | | | their original marvelous relationship back to where |
| discussed thoroughly and decisions made about | | | | it should be, and to save their marriage. |
| what can be done. Then both partners have to | | | | |