Sharing vs Selling in the New Economy

I was recently engaged with a company whichselling you his/her wares sooner or later you
was getting ready to launch a branded socialwould simply stop answering the knock on the
network. They were all excited about brining indoor. Door to door selling in neighborhoods has
the top names in their industry to join theirbeen banned by many city ordnances. Then why
network and selling their goods. They werewould we think it different in the virtual world?
getting ready to tell the top named people to joinIn the virtual world people tend to migrate to
the network and just cut and paste " stuff "others who have something in common or an
from these peoples own web sites and post theexperience to share. People migrate to forums
information onto their newly formed network. Iand networks that connect them to like minded
went and looked at a few of the web sites forpeople and issues. The postings in social networks
the proposed top names then I told the partiesare more of a sharing experiences and giving
STOP THE PRESSES! Most of the "stuff" on theinformation method than it is about directly selling
proposed web pages was selling and selling hard!a product or service. The virtual world of social
The parties I was talking to were well establishednetworking is much like the neighborhoods of the
successful adults in their own niche.physical world, "your home page, your brand, your
The problem however was they were trying topostings, pictures, videos and connections"
apply what made them successful in the physicalrepresent your personal virtual real estate".
world to the virtual world of social networking, putIf you want to build lasting, meaningful
simply it doesn't work! In the physical world of therelationships you don't approach the relationships
past individuals, organizations and institutions "sold"and others "real estate" in a constant selling mode
their products and services by using certainand if you do you will fail and hurt your personal
established methods of selling. The methodsbrand.In my physical neighborhood my neighbors
primarily were aimed at telling the market howget to know me and what I do for a living. My
good your product is, why its better than theneighbors may approach me with a questions
competition and marketing a value proposition thatabout something that I may be identified as
appealed to the needs of the masses.knowing something about. In turn I would share
The past methods of selling were aimed at usinginformation which may help them find or learn
media to appeal to the emotions to a need aimedwhat it is they may be inquiring about.
at invoking a purchase or inquiry vs. theSubsequently if what I shared was helpful to
fundamentals of building relationships which isthem it just increases my credibility with my
driven by the psychology of sharing and giving vs.neighbors and my brands worth.
selling and taking.In the virtual world relationship building works
Enter social networking as a new medium. Whatmuch in the same way. The method of selling
many adults don't understand about "socialsomething is about reverse thinking. Give to the
networking" is the basics of building relationshipscommunity and you earn the right and the natural
on line and the methods of establishing credibility.human response from the community to get. A
Lets use a physical life example. You live in ahuge shift in thinking for many adults who try and
neighborhood. If you had a neighbor whoapply old rules to a new world.
constantly knocked on your door and tried toWhat say you?